It’s now 2025, thank God. And if you’re a chick, wiith the coming of a new year comes, of course, horoscopes. I am a Libra (Libra sun, Libra moon, Libra rising), so it’s not exactly my year. But my horoscope still says that I will be “giving hard truths, sometimes hard to hear.” So with that in mind, here is the first of what will probably become a treasure trove of flaming dumpster fire hot takes this year.
I know people are trying to be accurate when they call me “Thai-American.” I think some of them don’t even mean to insult me. But I think some people do. It is, after all, a qualifier, a reminder that, yes, she’s Thai, but she’s something else (in my villain era I will refer to myself in the third person). It’s akin to the confusion around Kamala Harris’s heritage: how could she be BOTH black and Indian? Why, she is either a. lying or simply b. not enough of both or c. all of the above.
Whatever the reasoning behind this — accuracy, confusion, whatever — I find that the ultimate suggestion is that I am not “Thai” enough. Which brings me to the question: what is truly Thai? To throw some names around for no reason, I will now turn our attention to exhibit 1 Pailin Chongchitnant of “Hot Thai Kitchen”. Pailin writes really good (seriously, I use them all the time) Thai food recipes. She also lives in Canada, but under no circumstances does anyone ever refer to her as “Thai-Canadian”. She is, simply, Thai. Or how about Chef Pim Techamuanvivit of Nahm, Nari, Kamin and Kin Khao? She, too, does not live in Thailand. But no one questions her Thai-ness, or even how on earth she has enough time to oversee all of these restaurants (this is a real question).
I have lived in Thailand, with a couple of blips in between, since 1995 and in the same house for the past 20 years (something I’m painfully aware of as I prepare to leave). Both of my parents are Thai, from families that have been here for centuries. My husband of 27 years is Thai. I have been writing exclusively about Thai food for 15 years now. But I am still “Thai-American”, my opinions considered “Westernized”, my writing on Thai food second-guessed in favor of the work of other Thai chefs or Western male writers. It’s true that I do not fit the mold. I am not pretty or graceful enough, my Thai is atrocious, and I have strong opinions about American football. But I am still Thai.
Chef Dylan — I hesitate to call him a friend because he is far too cool for me, and maybe someday he will realize it and dump me — has a similar background to mine in many ways. He grew up in Florida, in a bi-cultural family. It took him a while to find his voice. He did extensive research during COVID and studied from the likes of David Thompson and Hanuman Aspler in Chiang Mai (the Thai food equivalent of doing Marine corps boot camp). When I first met him, thanks to a dinner invite from @hungryeye (thanks Joel!), he was mining the Thai women’s magazines of the ’70s and ’80s for inspiration. He has since taken on his own culinary vision, singular and personal, but informed by an exhaustive knowledge of Thai food history. Yet people still question, “Does he make Thai food?” in a way that chefs like Pam Soontornyanakij and Ton Tassanakajohn are not subject to.
What I’m saying is, Thai food is a huge umbrella. It always has been. From when the first Portuguese traders brought chilies, coriander and peanuts to when David Thompson published the seminal “pink book” aka the “Thai Food” cookbook, Thai cuisine has taken on and incorporated input from a wide range of voices (even, occasionally, ones not worth listening to, like street food sushi). I truly believe (and will soon publish a cookbook about how) there is no fusion in Thai food. It’s been “fusion” for as long as it’s been good enough to eat.
So here are a couple of recipes that Dylan taught me while I was doing research for a story, and which are now being wasted here in my sad-ass blog. They are: a great chicken curry, made in the style of the modern-day cookshops run by the descendants of the Hainanese chefs who worked in the royal palace; and a Northern-style yum sam chi (three types of coriander salad). They pair well together but also stand up on their own. Enjoy!
“Agave”-style mild yellow chicken curry
- Add chopped medium yellow onion in wok with splash of ghee (or margarine)
- Heat wok
- Wait for aroma
- Allow edges to char a bit but keep on moderate heat so nothing burns
- Take out onion and discard
- Add 25 g yellow curry paste and 110 ml coconut cream
- Wait for it to bubble and look like a thickened doily (break the cream)
- Add 2 chicken thighs, cut up, already salted and deep-fried
- Add 60 g/person chicken stock
- Simmer
- Season with 2 g/person white sugar
- Add 8 g/person soy sauce
- Add 1 cooked sweet potato, cut into bite-sized pieces
- Add splash of Carnation milk
- For garnish: roughly chop yellow onion, season onion with fish sauce and olive oil, and add to smoking hot wok
- Allow to flame for a second before adding to chicken curry
- Serve
Yum chi (“Sam chi” salad, Northern Thai-style)
-1 bunch coriander, roots attached
-1 bunch culantro
-1 bunch Vietnamese coriander (or dill)
-Handful of torn wild betel leaves, if you have them
-5-6 shrimp deshelled, deveined, and seasoned with fish sauce and olive oil
-5 charred and skinned prik noom (or jalapeno)
-3 fresh green prik jinda (or bird’s eye chilies)
-1 Tablespoon palm sugar
-2 Tablespoons fish sauce
-2 Tablespoons lime juice
-Handful of small shallots, roasted in olive oil in an oven until soft
-1 fresh shallot
-Shrimp floss (optional)
-Handful of pork rinds (for garnish)
- Heat wok to hot as shit
- Add shrimp and allow to flame for 20 seconds (for smoky aroma), then add half a cup of water
- Set aside
- For dressing: chop 1/2 bunch coriander leaves and stems
- Pluck 1/2 bunch Vietnamese coriander (or dill) off of stems
- Slice 1 coriander root finely
- Add to mortar with pinch of ground black pepper and pound with pestle until pesto-like
- Add 3 fresh green jinda chilies and pound to incorporate
- Add 1 Tablespoon palm sugar and pound to incorporate
- Add 1 sliced, skinned prik noom (or jalapeno) and pound to incorporate
- Add pinch of shrimp floss (if you have it) and pound to incorporate
- Fish sauce to taste (about 2 Tablespoons) and taste for seasoning
- Lime juice to taste (about 2 Tablespoons) and taste for seasoning
- Set dressing aside
- For salad: pick the rest of the Vietnamese coriander leaves (or dill)
- Add torn wild betel leaves (and/or coriander leaves)
- Add torn culantro
- Thinly slice one shallot and add
- Add oven-roasted shallots
- Slice remaining prik noom and add
- Add shrimp
- Mix together with dressing
- Garnish with pork rinds as croutons
- Serve



Your blog is brilliant, my wife is Japanese, and my daughter is errrr half, you are what you are, and you are bloody interesting and seriously interesting I can’t survive you spices but gosh I always like what you do and spices and even diluted down to my level they are wonderful …. you are not as simplistic as Thai or American you are a chef !!!!! and as a complete barbarian with cooking like me you are a guru if a bit caustic sometimes. Which makes you more interesting. Sorry if this response is not quite normal but is my first. Please keep writing and …the universe.
Thank you! I am definitely not a chef, just a cook. But thank you anyway
Gorgeous recipes! I’ve got to try to find the ingredients for yum sam chi. Yum indeed!
I see Pailin as Canadian, or Thai-Canadian. I’m not familiar enough with the others you mention to say. But seeing someone in hours of video is where I get my feeling of Pailin as Canadian, though definitely Thai-Canadian.
I read her recipes. She makes very good recipes
Her general stir-fry recipe changed my life.
Yeah!
Your “sad-ass blog”, as you call it, always brightens up my day when I read it! I own two of your books and am inspired by your devotion to Thai food!
That is kind, thank you Bert!